Take a poll in any bar or on any college campus-anywhere there are men for that matter, and the result will always be the same. The ultimate fantasy is the menage de trois, the threesome. Two girls and one guy.

But how do you get her to go for it? Well, let's take a quick history lesson, the results of which may surprise you.

In the Kama Sutra, the threesome is a regular feature. It is considered a way to relax, and not thought of as a homosexual act between the partners of the same sex. At one time it was quite common, take for instance ancient Rome. Orgies were very common, and sexual relations between anyone were part of that. It has been around forever.

So when broaching the subject with your lover, make sure that they would be open to the idea. Bringing it up while watching a porno movie would be the best start, if the two of you watch them regularly. If you don't, you might want to broach that subject first, and that's an entirely different article.

Before you go running off with your own agenda, remember that it takes a very special head space to be okay with a threesome, especially for your girlfriend. Many good relationships have disintegrated afterward as a result of lingering jealousy, even if the girlfriend insisted she was okay with it at the time. Choosing her best friend or someone that the two of you see regularly might not be a good idea unless the two of you have an ongoing open relationship.
If you belong to an adults BDSM club, choosing a girl from there is probably best; the two of you have seen her around and would probably continue to see each other at the club afterward, but in the same type of environment each time-some clubs even have workshops on the subject, and all are geared toward consenting partners and the proper etiquette.

You also have the option of hiring an escort for the evening-completely anonymous.

Just keep in mind that this maybe a physical thing for you, no strings attached and you have no intention of behaving in an insensitive manner toward your girl before, during, or after; but she may be just going along with the idea to please you. Find out the truth if you want your relationship to survive a threesome. Typically, sex is just sex for males in this situation, but has emotional connotations for women. This is not meant to be condescending toward men in any way; it's just a result of an educated experience.

Because it will be the first time, I do not recommend that the event take place in your home. A motel room is more appropriate in case your girl has a melt down afterward. The room would be anonymous and therefore she wouldn't have to think about it every time she stepped into your bedroom. You absolutely have to proceed with caution when bringing up this subject.